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About a week ago, I had lunch with an old friend who told me an inspiring story.
First, some background:
Well over a decade ago, this friend felt passionate about doing his part for climate change.
He decided the best way he could think to help was to become a lawyer and fight for regulations that would serve the planet.
He went back to school, got his law degree, and true to his intention, began working in the nonprofit sector for many years, struggling to reduce pollution from cars and trucks.
A few months ago, I got an email from him about a real estate deal he was putting together under his new brand.
Real estate?
Apparently he had made a career change.
When we caught up last week, I asked him what had inspired this change. Hereās what he said (paraphrased):
I still felt passionate about the cause, but the work itself was frequently very frustrating. A lot of my time felt wasted. We always seemed to be taking two steps forward, two steps back, and I wasnāt sure we were actually accomplishing anything.
Yet it was important to me to be a role model for my daughters; to show them what it means to have a sense of purpose.
One day, I asked my 6 year-old what she knew about my job.
āThat you hate it.ā she said.
Thatās when I knew it was time for a change.
He had been interested in real estate investing and decided to give it a try. It was scary for him to make the jump. He felt loyal to his co-workers and to his identity, and he wasnāt sure others would invest with him. But he pushed through and it worked.
Now he has more freedom, flexibility, and fun, as well as time for himself and his family. Plus he loves what heās doing.
āI have to say though,ā he added, āit hasnāt been easy to let go of my āIām saving the planetā identity AND my ālawyerā status. If Iām honest, I enjoyed being able to describe myself in those ways.āĀ
Iāve shared this story with several people since he told it to me. I find it a beautiful example of getting in integrity with oneās self, despite the objections, judgements, or fears of the mind.
I love that my friend had the courage to challenge his own beliefs about what was a āgoodā or noble profession with the actual facts of his experience:
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- He didnāt feel like he was actually helping
- He didnāt want to do the things he spent most of his time doing
- He wasnāt nearly as happy as he believed he could be
- His daughter wasnāt inspired in the ways heād hopedĀ
- There was something else that was calling to him
Then he found the courage to actually make the change, despite, what I imagine, was a grueling cross-examination put forth by the mind.
Maybe the planet will incinerate due to my friendās career change.
Itās more likely, however, that his happiness, vitality, and the abundance heās now experiencing is freeing him up to find new, more effective ways to care for the planet. Heās already exploring ways to reduce carbon from his new investment properties, and heās aiming to set an example that can scale through his new industry.
Without taking the leap though, heād have never known there was a way to be both aligned AND happy.
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