Category Archives: Blog Posts

Recently, Sue Heilbronner and I recorded a podcast episode in which our stunningly open and honest guest, Fernanda Bertrand, shared how hard she can be on herself for her own judgmental thoughts. Two things struck me, deeply, about this conversation. ***** First, how severely some of us judge ourselves for something we aren’t even actually doing. When you have a critical thought about someone, did you actually mean to have that thought? Did you sit down and craft the thought word by word? Or did it just appear in your mind? Are you actually the generator of your thoughts? Or the receiver of them? If you’re interested in exploring more, I recorded a deep dive on this topic here. ***** Second, I […]

Rather listen than read? Click here. Last week I stood in the grocery store mulling over whether to spend $7.99 on a tiny container of local organic raspberries. Had I been shopping for myself, I would have grabbed the less-expensive larger container, but a dear friend is staying with me, and these were for her. What should I do? Hours before, I’d been on a call as part of a course I’m taking (and loving). The facilitator had talked about decision-making. “One way to define alignment,” he said, “is when our actions are congruent with who we want to be.” He pointed out that our values can help us make decisions about which actions to take. Said simply: Our Values […]

Rather listen than read? Click here. Three years ago my partner Vince and I began looking for a house to buy together in Colorado. After two years of looking, nothing felt quite right. On a road trip from Maryland to Montreal we fell in love with Vermont and decided “Ah, here we will find our dream home!” As spring approached, we rented a house on an island in Lake Champlain on the border between Vermont and New York. We packed up our things and moved. Upon arriving, the house hunt began again. This involved hours and hours on Zillow, talking to multiple realtors, and attending home tours. In two months, we’ve driven back and forth across the entire state multiple […]